My Question for Parents

[msp123]

Hi everyone i have a question for parents that have gone on to have other children

I had my baby boy on thursday and my daughter has been getting to know her new brother but we have a problem ..

shes fine during the day and is sooo good with him and has been helping me out with things but friday night was the 1st night and she went to bed fine but when we was going to bed and she could hear him crying (we had a bit of a rought night with him) she was physically being sick at first i thought it was cos she wanted attention so i didnt fuss too much over her and i couldnt get her to stay upstairs so after her throwing up a few times i let her go down stairs and eventualy went back to bed when he had stopped crying and she went to sleep

and tonight shes doing the same thing she was fine all day been helping me out and off she went to bed but because she can hear him crying shes telling me shes going to be sick

im not quite sure if its because she can hear him but cant see him and shes getting worried about him and it makes her nervous and so shes sick or if its attention seeking

has anyone else had this problem with their child when bringing home a new addition to the family

[msp123]

since that post last night the early hours went a bit smoother had to catch the baby b4 he started actualy crying and she was fine she knew i was feeding him and and even peeked to have a look and she wasnt sick and i kept the landing light on as well all i can think of is that when he cries and she cant see him it makes her nervous and so shes sick so its just going to be a case of catching him awake b4 he starts crying in the night feeds which is gonna make it a little harder for me lol

[sharonlou]

hi firstly congratulations on your new arrival!
Iam really sorry to hear about your struggle at night,and with your daughter, obviously you would of explained to her that crying is the babys way of letting you know he needs something cause he cant talk yet etc...
perhaps it is because she cant see him so she is worrying about what is wrong?maybe the fact she was sick was coincidence and now thinks if she tells you she is going to be sick you may take her downstairs again?
It must be very confusing for you ,i would suggest see how it goes over the next few nights,
just keep reassuring her etc
hope you are ok and hope things get easier for you
congratulations again!
sharon x

[aracelibriesmom]

it sounds like anxiety... the worry of what is wrong with baby and she cant see baby. I have heard that some children with ACC suffer of anxiety.
My daughter is very easily frightened by noise seh does not see where it is coming from.

Congrats on the new baby!